Wednesday, 17 September 2014

I Regret Nothing

Regrets, I've had a few;
But then again, too few to mention.
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption.
Paul Anka, My Way (made famous by Frank Sinatra)

Do you have any regrets?
Usually when people are asked whether they regret something, the expectation is for them to say something big. Something like “I should have married that girl” or “I should have bought that new company called Apple back when Steve Jobs came begging for money to help assemble this computer on a wooden board a friend of his had invented”. Me, I’m different. I’m with Mr Anka on this one.
In my opinion, most of the time the bigger choices of our lives are so clear that there isn’t much room for wasting brain power contemplating a choice. And as such potential dilemmas go, the more you have at stake the more obvious the choice tends to be. So no, I do not regret failing to buy Apple back when it was worth an apple.
This doesn’t mean I do not have regrets. I doesn’t take much for me to feel bad for wrongdoing a friend, for hurting an ex dating partner, for being a bad parent or for annoying my wife. I classify those as Being a Dick, and I often mull over my accumulated regrets out of a lifelong career in Being a Dick.
My point is simple. First, do your best to avoid being a dick. Second, and more interestingly, I wanted to note my regrets are less to do with missing out on personal opportunities and more to do with abusing potential opportunities in order to hurt others.

Image copyrights belong to Amorphia Apparel, producers of one of my favourite shirts. I do not regret not asking for their permission to reproduce the image here.


wile.e.coyote said...

Just is the right time for that YOM KIPUR post.

Moshe Reuveni said...

To prevent any false associations between me and Yom Kipur, I will add the main reason for the timing of this post is me stumbling on someone I used to know years and years ago (a girl, now a woman) over social media. It triggered memories.

Uri said...

coincidence? or GOD working in mysterious ways?

Moshe Reuveni said...

The flying spaghetti monster works in mysterious ways.