Sunday, 12 October 2014

Love Me Tinder


The social life of an adult seems to have its stages. We have the stage when everyone you know gets married, which is followed by the stage where everyone you know has their first child. During each of those stages it feels cool to be there with the norm; disobey it and you’re the outsider who is under constant pressure.
Well, now it seems I am on to the next stage of my social life. Once again, everyone around me seems to be taking part in this cool rite while I am left to fill the role of the outsider. Welcome to the age when it is cool to divorce!
It really does seem as if every social interaction I get in the company of males my age quickly deteriorates into the merits of leaving the old life behind and the sparkle of returning to one’s bachelor’s days. They even got the apps to support them: Tinder, an app I first heard of through a Time magazine article, is a hit with this demographic. [If you haven’t heard of Tinder then, boy, you are so uncool! It’s a dating app featuring nothing but photos of potential candidates, as taken from their Facebook accounts.]
Me, I’m used to the role of the uncool sceptic. It doesn’t take long to figure out that loudness does not equal numbers; the bulk of the people I know are still with their original partners. Psychologically speaking, it doesn’t take much to figure out the glorification of the divorce is meant to act as a mechanism to compensate for the damage that comes with admitting failure.
I’m not saying that divorcees are losers or anything like that. To each their own way and their own solutions. I am only trying to point out that cool trends are not always what they crack up to be. Besides, it’s not like my original bachelor days were all the rage; the original reasons for being happy to have found a partner in the person I now call my partner still stand today. Probably even much more than they did back then.
Then again, I was never cool.


Image by Jo Christian Oterhals, Creative Commons (CC BY-NC-ND 2.0) licence

1 comment:

Uri said...

Maybe it's an Australian thing - I have no idea what you're talking about.