Saturday, 4 August 2012

Girls & Boys

Girl Attacks Boy on Playground

I was waiting for this to happen for a while now. I’m actually surprised I had to wait so long till, the other evening, my fine young son asked me a question. That question:
Abba [that’s me], why are there boys and girls?
The question was repeated several time, not to be ignored.
Since I don’t like lying and bullshitting anyone, particularly my son, I chose to go with the science. I told my son that we need both girls and boys in order to be able to make more humans, and that this is because humans have evolved in a way that required a mix of the mother’s genes and the father’s genes in order to create a new person.
I doubt he fully comprehends the meaning of the explanation I have provided, but I also wouldn’t discount his understanding of these matters purely because of his tender age; none of the terms I had used, genes included, are foreign to him.
I would have liked him to not be settled with my answer and further challenge me instead, but he went back to his Lego playing. My very first ever sex education teaching class ended rather prematurely. On the positive side, my son did not ask me that "how" question that begged to be asked – how do the parents’ genes combine to make a new person?
Had he asked I would have provided a detailed account of the sperm and the egg.


Image by Steve Corey, Creative Commons license

7 comments:

wile.e.coyote said...

I suggest going with the full true, papa-coyote and mama-bear are paying a lot of money to the Doctor, the Doctor is mixing some stuff in his small glass (In Latin In vitro). Then you grow up in a small tube and being entered into a giant syringe and moved for ex-glass storage for few months
Not sure if that is the case for all babies, also heard some rumors about Storks, but I don't know any Stork that is willing to visit a coyote house so I had to go with the traditional (I assume) version and not that new-age Stork version

Moshe Reuveni said...

An interesting suggestion, but in what way would having a brother/sister offer my son a better answer to his question than the answer I already gave him?
And no, there is absolutely no way I see myself delving into nappy/diaper changes again. Not that we can afford it even if we wanted to.

wile.e.coyote said...

A lot of people are saying I'm not clear in English. Guess they are right. where did I suggested another cab?
I just answer D question how babies are created

Moshe Reuveni said...

Thanks for the clarification - now I get it (further proof of me losing it?).
For what it's worth, we did give Dylan the sperm/egg explanation. As in, the father gives this, the mother gives that. He didn't ask where these things that we give come from, though.
When he does ask, I don't intend to mess about; he'll get as much as he asks for. I hope he's going to enjoy sex when he grows up, and I also hope he'll enjoy it responsibly; I don't want him to cut corners just because we don't discuss these things at home.

wile.e.coyote said...

As for baby 2.0 I think it is connection to the surrounding atmosphere, don’t know how AU goes but in IL single baby is not something which is common while is EU is it a common thing, ofc as you being you, don't know if you will drive yourself by what others do.
It is only how you (and spouse) feels about bigger family, all the rest are just items you make up to explain that decision.
As a single father for the last 7 days and 1:53 hours (but who is counting) for a 8 month Wile Junior I must say it is not as bad as I expected. I thought I would call mother bear after a single day and force her to get down from the Kalimagaro and assist us, well I did, but she hung up on me.
As for money issues with new babies, I assume you can cope with that as well, all you need is to stop blogging about all the new gadgets and houses you expend and you will find the money is there (for more details go to http://www.reuvenim.com/ and view last year posts).
Quick update, I'm a single father for the last 7 days and 2:01 hours, 3 days and 5 hours to go

Moshe Reuveni said...

You're raising an interesting question there. Aussie culture is definitely 2 kids (plus) oriented: everywhere you go, "family prices" mean the price for 2 adults + 2 kids. Out of Dylan mothers' group of local residents, we and another IVF couple are the only ones to not go and have a second child within less than 2 years. I can continue but I will assume the point has been taken.
Where I will argue with you is in putting most/all the “blame” on the surrounding atmosphere. I would put the blame instead on evolution: like it or not, you are a machine for creating more humans. Your craving for sex and most other things about you are geared this way. It is your rational that’s holding you back. I will therefore argue, and the statistics are with me (although I won’t bother to look them up here), that the more affluent and therefore better educated the people are, the fewer kids they have.
As for being a single parent: yes, I agree, you can survive. I do not, however, envy single parents in the least; I regard it as one of the harder ongoing ordeals life can bring one into.

Moshe Reuveni said...

Another note on the financial cost of having children:
I don't know what it's like in Israel. In Australia, childcare costs a lot - by now, more than $100 per day. You do get some back, but it's convoluted and limited. The point is, once you have more than one child to look after, you're probably just better off staying at home. That's one reason why there are lots of stay at home mothers here, and that's why this option is likely to remain culturally dominant.
Therefore, the cost of having another child would be quite severe (losing a salary). The none financial cost on the parent that gets to stay at home is even worse: I know I would go crazy.